Eavesdropping on conversations is the best.
I know, I know. You think you have the perfect child, we all do. And they are; perfect I mean. It’s just that… you know that saying ‘ don’t tempt fate’? Well, it applies to all of the following points. So Parents. As desperate as you are to blurt out these statements, Don’t.
- “He is such a good sleeper”.
Granted, at the moment this is very convenient. Not for you getting up at 5 am to put the telly on. No thank you. We have a routine. We have this sleeping thing nailed. But, be warned. At 15…you can’t get them out of that same bed for love nor money. You long for a day, just one, when they’ll get up out of that stinking pit before 11 am. I’m still waiting.
2. “She eats anything. Her favourite is vegetable korma”.
That’s because she’s strapped into that chair with no way of escape. It doesn’t last. The Nigella Lawson pea risotto is a thing of the past, and will instead be replaced by the never-ending question: “does it have mushrooms in it?”
3. “He loves it when I play classical music in the car. I think he’s going to be a composer.”
If you’d rather listen to Adele than Baby Beethoven, do it. The only thing he will be composing in the car at 15 is a text. And guess what? You’re not part of it, so keep your eyes on the road . And , whatever .
4. “She’s already using her pincer grip.”
Believe me. When your girl reaches 13, and you see those thumbs whizzing over the Instagram keyboard at a hundred miles an hour, you’ll wish she’d kept those beautiful chubby fists in her mouth. Don’t encourage the use of fast fingers. Put mittens on until she’s 20 if necessary.
5. “He’s saying Dada, but I’m teaching him to say, Mama!”
Don’t. Once it starts, it never stops. Just leave it. Let Dada take the blame.
6. “She loves her big brother.”
Make the most of this one. It seems that when a pair of siblings enters into the dark void that is teenagerism, they make a secret pact. “In front of Mum and Dad, at least, we will hate each other .Especially at dinner time; just to ensure their dinner goes down in lumps.”
7. “I’m taking him to coffee mornings. He needs to socialise.”
If your idea of sitting in a big circle with a load of other knackered parents, staring and comparing little blobs, mashing, mushy banana (if you’re healthy) or digestives (if you were me) into their bibs, then go ahead. Honestly ? Go round to Grandmas, (if you don’t have one handy, there’s always the old people’s home down the road), make yourself a cup of tea, get a magazine (preferably not on good parenting), and let her hold and coo for an hour. Socialising done. And don’t worry, in 15 years he will have 1023 friends, on Facebook.
There then . That’s it for starters, but, be warned. As the years go by there arrives loads more. All the time. However, at least you’re in the ‘know’ now . You’re in the proper parents’ gang. You see, they don’t tell you these things at antenatal class, it’d seem a bit scary wouldn’t it? “Heres a free nappy, oh and by the way, anything good that happens? Just ignore it, it doesn’t last”.
So, new parent. Next time you’re stood waiting in line and someone asks how the new baby is, just say, ” naughty as hell ” that way, you’re not setting yourself up for future disappointments. Not only that, but you’ll keep the nosy old bag, the one listening to your conversation behind you, happy.