My desire to indulge in some yoga came out after I witnessed the perfect family in India.

Perfect kids, perfect Mother. I concluded that this must surely be a result of partaking in either a) dancing around the full moon naked, b) drinking lots of wine or else 3) taking regular yoga classes.

I couldn’t do the first without being reported to the police by my teenagers, the second was proving impossible in India and so that left the yoga.

Something I’ve been threatening to do for years but have somehow always talked myself out of it.

After having just spent two weeks in Gokarna, where it seems that every woman and her soul mate is super chilled out and zenned up to their eyeballs, I decided that when we got to Rajasthan, I too would head to the yoga studio.

Like all of these other women.

Get me some of this super magic bendy body mind power that these Mother Earth women are raving about. Then I would surely be perfect and kind, and my kids might decide that they hate their phones and would stop asking me to buy them Nutella.

Why not I thought. Go for it, Liz. You’re never too old to try something new after all.

I first witnessed the perfect yoga family seated at the table next to us at the only decent restaurant in Gokarna.

The family, who had probably come from the Netherlands. They’re all weird and hippy-like from there.

The perfect family who had trekked across the desert and through a jungle with just a leather thong between their toes and a pendant around their necks containing Buddha’s eye to lead them.

To me.

In India.


And the kids and Brian.

Sitting next to us in the cramped, hot and hectic restaurant I could tell from the outset that they were a family who never argued. Or even talked loud. They just whispered. And if this family were to ever raise their voices above two decibels, it would be for a jolly good reason. It would be to preach about the goodness of being vegan or the benefits of bathing in Almond milk and cow wee.

The family that only see the beauty in the world and vegetables and untreated soil. And cowpats.

The family born in Tranquilum.

I wanted so much to be that family.

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I would have smiled and greeted them warmly, but I was too busy trying to keep my hands from around Tessa’s neck when she, once again, announced that the only thing she would be eating was chow mien.

There is curd, okra curry and green pea soup, but no. All the way to India to eat bloody chow mein.

I concluded that had I been to yoga like the perfect Mother, I would have maybe said “Ok, my sweetheart, chow mein it is. I love that you make your own choices”

But I had not. And I did not.

Instead, I hissed across the table “No wonder you look so bloody thin and pale. Well, don’t blame me when you’re taken to the hospital and fed through tubes.”


The perfect family had two children. Just like us, I thought. But nothing like us I thought.

The older child was a boy, whose hair had never seen a brush in its whole six years of being born, wore a turban tied between his legs like Mogli.

And the younger child was pinned to his Mothers chest. Held captive by one of those khaki green slings. Arms and legs spread eagle with his nose squashed to the nipple.

The Earth Mother. In her cheesecloth pale yellow teeshirt and wearing no bra. Not even a strapless one.

Laughing at her child and talking to him. Listening. For real. Not even fake listening.

And the Dad. The Dad with a hessian sack sewn with camel hair into a pair of trousers. Sporting a bare chest and lots of those orange beads around his neck that surely symbolise wisdom and goodness and just generally make you a better person who loves cows and henna.

I looked at Brian in his Liverpool FC top. And tried to imagine him casting it aside (carefully though. It’s this seasons and costs a fortune) in favour of a bare chest to sport a long set of nana beads.

No. They’d only get all sticky and stick in his chest hair when his belly started to sweat.

The little Mogli boy ordered a Dahl soup and the mother, stroking his matted locks looked on with a serenity that made me want to scream ‘get some Vosene Conditioner on that kid’s hair and give it a good brush through’.

“Yummy isn’t it my darling” she cooed.

I’m sure I saw her shift her gaze sideways to Tessa, picking out the long green vegetables from her monosodium glutamate Chinese dish.

“Try this aubergine and pumpkin curry,” I said.  I try to coo but I resembled a choked parrot, so I forced a smile and said “It’s Y-E-M-M-Y.”

Cue the eye roll. “Why can’t everyone just leave me alone and let me eat what I want to eat. It’s not fair…”


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Look at them. Enjoying every bloody minute of it.


I could feel Mother Earth with her judgmental pale blue eyes watching us. I thought I heard her say “Let the child have her own choice, Mama. Let her aurora shine”

I think that’s what she said, but she might just have been asking the waiter for a drink of water.

I looked over and smiled.

Raised my already wrinkled with frett forehead as if to say “Frigging kids eh?” But she stared straight past me in horror and instead settled her gaze onto Sonny who was asking Brian to hotspot him on the wifi so he could play mortal combat.

The one time I want my family to stay silent.

To behave.

The one time I wanedt to pretend to Mother Earth that I too had it all under control. That even though we look like a family on the brink of a nervous breakdown, we are a very close and happy bunch. We don’t always behave like this I wanted to say. We very often discuss the relevance of Shiva’s third eye and whether or not joss sticks are toxic.

I wanted to tell her that I breastfed and homeschooled. Surely that counts for something? I want to impress her with the fact that we have cows in the field next to where we live and sometimes we even stroke them.

But instead, I sat hunched over and watched in disgust as Sonny spat on his Mozie bites.

“I feel sick” Comes the all to familiar after dinner dialogue from my daughter’s mouth. “ Why does my stomach feel weird? I’m still hungry. I feel hot. Can I order a Nutella roti? Why does Sonny get to use the battery pack?”

I can feel the boy with the matted hair looking at me. Judging me. Staring at me. I’m sure I heard him say:

“I have x-ray vision and I can see the rotting flesh of chicken and rum in your bulging stomach. I can count twenty-three lines on your forehead, and I know my seventeen times table. And my mama never, ever says ‘oh piss off under her breath’.

I think that’s what he said, or maybe it was just ‘can you pass me a fork please Daddy.’

With my paranoia running wild, I vowed there and then that things were about to change. I silently promised myself that once I got to Rajasthan, I would seek out a teacher and  I would indulge in yoga.

Then my family too would resemble this idyl of calm.

On arrival at Udaipur two days later, Brian and I were exploring the streets early in the morning while the kids were still slobbering in bed.

I saw it. Gleaming. Sitting amongst dust and phlegm. The Yoga class sign. Tonight 7 until 8.

There it is. Not quite as shiny and as glamorous as I’d expected but hey ho. This is India.



I felt the tension beginning to mount in Brian’s shoulders as he spotted me eyeing the sign.

I ignored him. I find that’s the best way to deal with these marital differences. I announced to him that I would be attending the yoga class every night for the duration of the stay.

“But what about the rum and coke we always have before dinner?”

Brian. Always careful about the way he approaches subjects like this. ” You can’t live without your alcohol” Maybe a tad harsh I think.

He had a point. After all, the rum and coke is all he and I get to enjoy alone.

But no.

I am determined.

“I have to do this” I proclaim dramatically, tossing my dirty sarong over my shoulder; “For me, for you, for my body, for all of us.”

Brian has already zoned out and is checking the football scores on his phone. I want him to be like Daddy Earth and implore me to elaborate on how I feel, but instead, he blows into his iPhone 7 about ten times, shaking it like a lunatic. Complaining that Sonny has been using his chargers with dirty hands and now his headphones don’t work properly.

I trot back to the hotel to inform the kids that Mummy won’t be available for chats and cuddles tonight as she will be attending an Indian yoga session.

I imagine myself already benefiting from my class. Serene and peaceful and in the moment. “Come on chickens” I want to say when I walk into their hotel bedroom“ Mummy’s going to yoga tonight so all will be well from now on. No more screaming and shouting from Mummy. Just lots of beautiful calmness. Let’s put those modern-day gadgets away for now and maybe later after we have all talked about the beauty of India and the importance of recycling, you can have some time on your addictive little phones. How does that sound my sweethearts?”

But I haven’t been to yoga yet, and I’m still secretly peeved about Brian implying that I am an alcoholic, so instead, I slam into their darkened room, pull the dusty curtains back from the window and bark:

“I didn’t bring you all this bloody way to lay in your bedrooms stinking like two little pigs with the wifi glowing into your faces did I? Now, get up and brush your teeth. We are going to see the palace. And don’t bother saying you want to bring your phones to take photos, you can take photos with your mind. And stop using your dad’s charger with your filthy hands.”


Not quite the start to the day that I had in mind, but at least there were no tears. Always a bonus.

I stand up to my full height. Reminding myself that I won’t be very good at Indian yoga if I continue to hunch over like an old hag. The body, after all, reflects that of the mind Liz.

All day I was nervous about my Indian yoga class.

I was starting to regret that I’d told the kids. Having earlier asked Tessa to come with me in the hope that we could have some yummy natural bonding time together as mother and daughter she had said  “No way! That’s just freaky. A load of women sending their baby back to the womb” and then walked off laughing.

My upcoming yoga session was the kid’s source of entertainment for the whole day. Sniggering to each other about how I’d have to put my legs around my head and wouldn’t be able to get them back into place again.

I wanted to retaliate and scream down through the streets of Udaipur ‘I’d like to send you two back to the womb you cheeky little buggers’ but the man that we had just met from the art shop was looking at me, and he thinks I’m really nice, so I didn’t.

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Go to yoga and you too will be calm and nice and have a light shining out of your head.


Seven o’clock came around all too quickly. And I’ll admit. I was tempted to throw the yoga pants back into the dirty backpack and pour some dark rum down my throat instead. That would surely make mummy a more beautiful person for a few hours.

But I was strong.

An excellent example to my children who were pushing me out of the door to see if I would go. Goading me. Sniggering.

I knew. I knew the minute I entered the whitewashed building that I shouldn’t have come.  Something just didn’t feel right.

It was at that moment that I realised that I didn’t really know anything about yoga. I mean, I know about it, but I don’t really know what it’s all about.

I knew that yoga was a stretching and breathing exercise for people like me who have problems with being bitter and twisted. People who turn to alcohol as a form of relaxation as opposed to some aloe vera ice tea. But that was about it.

There was only one other person was in the yoga hall. A small Chinese boy. He was must have been older than he looked as he was backpacking around India, but at a guess, I’d say he was about 12 or 9.


Me and a Chinese man in a child’s body. Both waiting to be reformed by yoga.

And then I saw him. The Tutor. The Master. The Yogi person.

Dressed in floor-skimming white robes. wearing black Khol pencil on his dark eyes and his long hair in a top knot.

My first thought was how the hell was he going to be able to put his leg around his head with that tight tunic on. My second was why was he wearing makeup,  and my third was I wonder if he could give me a lesson in liquid eyeliner application.

I looked to the Chinese man-boy for answers but he was on snapchat. Laughing maniacally at his phone. Unbelievable.

I started to get little flutters in my chest. Not the ones you get when you have the evening to yourself, and there’s a bottle of sauvignon blanc in the fridge, but the sort of ones that you get when you think you’ve left your mobile phone on the roof of the car at the supermarket. Those kinds of flutters.

Where were all the other Earth Mothers? Where were the fathers with their bare chests and their huge feet with knobbly toes from too much crouching?

None to be seen. Just the Ben Kingsley lookalike dressed up like Gandhi. With his eyes shut. Chanting.

Still, I remained positive. I am after all an example of positivity. The tutor opened his eyes for a brief second, beckoning to me and the Chinese juvenile – who had just told me he was only there to kill time before his overnight bus to Agra – to come to the front. To come closer to him. To be as one. Or three as it were.

Oh, God. I could kill a rum and coke right now.

The smell of incense was starting to make me feel sick. In the corner was a big box and on it was written ‘Donations welcome. Minimum 200 rupees. Pay tutor.’ Not that bloody holy than thou I thought.

I looked at Yogi who still hadn’t said anything in the way of a greeting and was instead, reaching for a wooden flute.

Bloody hell. No.

There we sat. Him, cross-legged, nearly ripping the crutch of his pants. Eyes rolled into the back of his head. Pure white matching the colour of his flowing robes.
Me, trying my hardest to push my chubby knees to the floor without tearing a ligament. Sitting unnaturally upright, my back killing me. Trying not to scratch in between my toes that I suspected were housing a premature fungal affliction.

Him, still tooting on that bloody wooden flute. His eyes rolled up in his head.

Joss sticks, millions of the things stinking the room out and making me choke. Why didn’t I just get up and make a run for it? I looked over to the wee man lad. He looked like he was getting something out of it. Nodding furiously at the wooden flute and smiling. Maybe it was a Chinese song.

At last the pied piper stopped and scanned the room. Obviously disappointed that the only people to witness the freak show was a student from Tawain and a confused woman with suspected athletes foot.

I sat up straight. I had to stop myself from clapping. Don’t applaud you, idiot. People who come to yoga don’t applaud the flute player. They’re too in the moment.

Silence. He said nothing. Just stared. And smiled. A cross between Budhah and Jack Nicholson in The Shining.

I felt uncomfortable. This was awkward. I wasn’t sure if this wasn’t some test. A cruel joke. Let’s see who breaks first. The old woman or the Chinese chimpanzee.

Be calm Liz. Be serene. See through the eyeliner and into his soul. Don’t you dare clap or move and definitely don’t start humming like you always do when you get nervous.

It wasn’t working.

I  wondered how he kept the robes so white in such a dirty city. I found myself wondering whether I should buy a top loading washing machine when I got back to New Zealand.

“Go Home,” said the smooth voice. The Yogi teacher.

At first, I thought it was all part of the show. A godlike, cow-like, Buddha-like ritual that all tutors say to first-timers. And so I didn’t move. In fact, I looked over to Bejing boy as if to say “Good ‘ere innit?”

‘Go home’ he repeated, this time the voice slightly impatient as he tilted his chiselled chin toward the exit.

Still, I sat like a half-wit. A simpleton smile on my face. At least Chinese busboy had the excuse of not understanding English very well; he was still nodding furiously. But I knew precisely what the tutor meant, and still, I sat there waiting to fly up to the ceiling in my yoga pants. Expecting to be enlightened and stretched in all directions for 200 Rupees.

It must have dawned on the tutor that he was wasting his act on these two simpletons and the yogi showman gave up being Mr nice guy. He stood bolt upright and swiftly, reaching down to pick up the wooden flute from the floor he barked,‘You go home. Come back tomorrow when there be more people.’

How rude.

‘Excuse me ‘Mister’, I wanted to say. ‘I’ve waited a long bloody time for this. I’ve trekked across the Rajasthani desert to get here. Now show me how to wrap my friggin toes around my ear so I can go home and be nice to my children and have a love life that resembles Sting and Trudy Styler’. Right now Yogi bear. Never you mind go home. And anyway, how come your whites are so white?’

But I didn’t.

 I just flew out of that door like I’d been given wings. Straight up the dusty road, past the rip off coke kiosk and onto the roof terrace of our guest house. And there it was. The love of my life. The one that makes Mummy calm. The Indian rum and coke.


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The view from the roof garden in Udaipur. Along with a rum and coke…


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