by Liz Deacle | Podcasts
How to Deal With Rejection When All You Want to Do Is Bawl Your Eyes Out:
Episode 4 Part 2
Episode four (part 2) of the It’s a drama podcast was a tough one for both Sonny and me. Las week, in part 1, we discussed the consequences of rejection from friends, how to deal with rejection and we also touched upon cyberbullying. This week we cover why people reject others.
In the past month, we have both been the victims of social rejection and we thought it would be a good idea to see how it affects not just teenagers but adults too.
I won’t lie, it was hard for me to talk about on air. I was bullied badly as a young teenager, and the damage of that leaves me feeling very panicky and vulnerable if faced with confrontation. It is a lot easier for me to hide behind funny blog posts.
This week’s podcast was so juicy and needed talking about in such depth that we decided to split the show into two and have a part 1 and part 2. If you didn’t listen to last weeks show then make sure you do so, that way you’ll know what we are talking about!
I won’t give too much away, but in this podcast you might find the answers you need about how to deal with rejection and understanding this certain form of bullying.
As always, we would like to say thank you so much for your support. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe to us on iTunes and if you could leave us a short comment and rating that would help us enormously in reaching other people. ( iTunes is a fickle mistress. The more comments and subscribers a podcast receives, the further up the ladder of exposure you go.)
Thank you my lovely people x
The Podcast Notes.
- We discuss the difference between bullying and rejection and how to deal with both.
- The term bullying is defined as a form of repeated, persistent and aggressive behaviour intended to cause fear, distress, or harm to another person’s body, emotions, self-esteem or reputation.
- Although the attack that I experienced wasn’t (thankfully) ongoing or persistent, it certainly harmed my emotions, my reputation and my self-esteem, so, in my eyes, it was a form of cyberbullying.
- Rejection can appear in the form of social rejection when a person is deliberately excluded from a social relationship or passive rejection which is when the perpetrator gives the victim the silent treatment. Both of these definitions applied to sonny’s situation, and we discuss the effects of both and how to deal with rejection from friends.
- The physical effects of reliving an unpleasant experience such as online humiliation/bullying/rejection are quite clear in my voice as I retell how I felt. We purposely didn’t edit this out. I think people need to see that the fear of bullying doesn’t just affect teenagers.
Further Reading:
Amy Morin. 5 Ways That Mentally Strong People Deal with Rejection.
The Rangers Apprentice Series. John Flannigan.
Toi Whakaari: NZ Drama School in Wellington.
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by Liz Deacle | Podcasts
How to Deal With Rejection When All You Want to Do Is Bawl Your Eyes Out: Part 1.
Episode 3 (Part 1)
Episode three (part 1) of the It’s a drama podcast was a tough one for both Sonny and me. This week we discussed the consequences of rejection from friends, how to deal with rejection and we also touched upon cyberbullying.
In the past month, we have both been the victims of social rejection and we thought it would be a good idea to see how it affects not just teenagers but adults too.
I won’t lie, it was hard for me to talk about this on air. I was bullied badly as a young teenager, and the damage of that leaves me feeling very panicky and vulnerable if faced with confrontation. It is a lot easier for me to hide behind funny blog posts.
As it turned out, discussing what happened on the podcast was the best thing that I could have done. Afterwards, I felt as though I had been in a therapy session. As a side note, I have never had any kind of therapy, but after opening up to my son on this week’s podcast, I can totally see why people would seek out someone to talk to.
Sonny, it seems, is a natural podcast host. He is patient and intelligent, and I very much forget when I’m talking to him that he is indeed my son.
The same boy who hours earlier, I have been moaning at to tidy the breakfast dishes away.
This week’s podcast was so juicy and needed talking about in such depth that we decided to split the show into two and have a part 1 and part 2.
Part one sees us both laying down each of our experiences and touching briefly on how being rejected made us feel. Part two is the real gold.
I won’t give too much away, but just make sure you listen to part two to seek the answers you might need about how to deal with rejection and understanding the reason people behave the way they do.
As always, we would like to say thank you so much for your support. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe to us on iTunes and if you could leave us a short comment and rating that would help us enormously in reaching other people. ( iTunes is a fickle mistress. The more comments and subscribers a podcast receives, the further up the ladder of exposure you go.)
Thank you my lovely people x
The Podcast Notes.
- We discuss the difference between bullying and rejection and how to deal with both.
- The term bullying is defined as a form of repeated, persistent and aggressive behaviour intended to cause fear, distress, or harm to another person’s body, emotions, self-esteem or reputation.
- Although the attack that I experienced wasn’t (thankfully) ongoing or persistent, it certainly harmed my emotions, my reputation and my self-esteem, so, in my eyes, it was a form of cyberbullying.
- Rejection can appear in the form of social rejection when a person is deliberately excluded from a social relationship or passive rejection which is when the perpetrator gives the victim the silent treatment. Both of these definitions applied to sonny’s situation, and we discuss the effects of both and how to deal with rejection from friends.
- The physical effects of reliving an unpleasant experience such as online humiliation/bullying/rejection are quite clear in my voice as I retell how I felt. We purposely didn’t edit this out. I think people need to see that the fear of bullying doesn’t just affect teenagers.
Sonny and Liz. Bashing it out in the spare room.
Further Reading:
Amy Morin. 5 Ways That Mentally Strong People Deal with Rejection.
The Rangers Apprentice Series. John Flannigan.
Toi Whakaari: NZ Drama School in Wellington.
by Liz Deacle | Podcasts
How Long Term Travel Affects Different Members Of The Family
Episode 2
This episode of the podcast is all about how families cope when they throw everything up in the air for a while and decide to go travelling with their kids.
I have had people say to me that their kids would be nervous about leaving their friends and home for a couple of weeks.
While we were travelling last year, my daughter got pretty homesick. She wanted her friends and her own bed which is understandable.
I worried myself sick over the fact that we had ruined her life forever and then, the following week, she turned around and said she was happy again and wanted to continue travelling. I don’t know who I was madder at. Me for crying myself to sleep and worrying myself senseless or her for telling me in the first place!
A good lesson to learn here is that parents often worry about our kids for no reason. I know I do. We all do. And mostly it turns out to be a storm in a teacup.
For Pinterest!
Podcast Notes
We tried a different format for this podcast. We did a question and answer session. Three questions each.
- What was your initial thought when I said that we were going to travel around the world for a year?
- How had you changed when you returned home and did you still fit in?
- Did your friends still relate to you?
- How did you keep in touch with your friends?
I loved this podcast and as I mentioned above, the things that I would have said my kids were worried about turned out to be completely different to what I thought.
Just shows that we don’t always know what’s going on in that teenage brain.
I had a hard time returning back to real life and we discuss that too.
Before we closed the show, I asked Sonny what book he was reading at the moment. It was Pillars Of The Earth by Ken Follett
That’s it from us for this week! I hope you enjoyed the show. Please comment below or send me a private message if there is a topic you would like us to talk about.
I’ll do my best!
PS: Remember to subscribe to us our iTunes and leave a comment too!
The three of us bringing you helpful content! Don’t look at my washing in the background!
by Liz Deacle | Podcasts
It’s a Drama Parenting Podcast!
Episode 1: I’m really very excited to be launching our very own /travel/lifestyle and parenting podcast for 2019.
It is something that I have dreamed of doing for a while but never had the time or the courage! Having my teenagers by my side will make me seem a whole lot more courageous than I really am and plus, it gives you a chance to hear things from a different perspective.
This is all very new to us so we will be trying out different things – be gentle with us and do me a favour? Email me with topics that you would like us to discuss. Please?
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What’s The Podcast About?
The first episode is us saying hello and talking about mobile devices, the pros and cons of why a kid needs a cell phone and how parents react to this.
A teenagers point of view and parents concerns. Are phones bad for our children? Is there any need to worry so much.
Some of you may know that teenagers and devises are my favourite subject – but how do kids feel?
Podcast Notes:
- It was the best thing we have ever done.
- It was while we were on this trip that we came up with the idea of starting a podcast wherein kids and parents discuss topics. Sharing both sides of the story.
- I know that all teenagers are not the same. Some are really shy, others feel as though they can’t talk about certain stuff to their parents. That is why we wanted to make this podcast as honest as possible. The minute it feels awkward I will pull the plug.
- If I had a podcast like this I would probably be addicted to it. There is so much I want to know about how other parents cope with stuff but I am usually either too embarrassed (they may think I’m a nosey cow) or too polite (what are you suggesting?). This is a fly on the wall podcast just for you.
I mess up straight away by introducing myself and then, before I know it, I am introducing Sonny too. That is something I will have to remember when doing this podcast – to keep my mouth shut and let my kids have their say!
- I ask my 17-year-old son, Sonny, what age did he get his phone and WHY does he have to have it strapped to his hand for 14 hours a day?!
- He explains about a snapchat phenomenon called ‘Streaks’. I don’t tell him what streaks referred to back in the ’80s…
- When you hear what it is teenagers are actually doing with their phones it makes the whole worry thing a great deal easier. I’m not saying I like it, but it is the way of the world and I think it’s better to understand something rather than be frightened of it.
- The podcast flew by so quickly. Once we got talking I really didn’t want it to end, but we think that twenty minutes is long enough. What do you think?
- And do you like Sonny’s intro? Message me and give me some ideas, we’ll love you forever. And don’t forget, if you enjoy the parenting podcast subscribe on iTunes and leave us a review! That way we will get seen by more people. Yay!
Talking it through with teenagers. It’s a Drama. A parenting podcast
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